How Do We Decide Which Set Of Parents To Tell First?

You are engaged!!! He popped the big question and you said yes!!!! Which set of  parents do you tell first? I get asked this question a few times especially from engaged couples who don’t live in the same country or their parents are in different locales. Typically the brides parents are told first with the grooms parents being told very soon afterwards.

After everyone is told the grooms parents should contact the brides parents whether through a phone call or email. If the brides parents are divorced, the parent that raised the bride should be contacted and then a call to the other parent only if the bride and that parent still have a close relationship.



10 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. beethankful
    Jul 17, 2012 @ 09:29:47

    The bride’s parent I agree!


  2. beethankful
    Jul 17, 2012 @ 09:30:11

    never knew that there was a procedure to follow at all


  3. beethankful
    Jul 17, 2012 @ 13:25:41

    researching this now


  4. beethankful
    Jul 17, 2012 @ 13:27:23

    Both of parties should be present and ideally to tell your parent(s) in person


  5. beethankful
    Jul 17, 2012 @ 13:28:06

    so they’ll have a chance to see your happiness up close, look at the ring, and start talking about the wedding.


  6. beethankful
    Jul 17, 2012 @ 13:28:29

    Traditionally the bride’s parents know before the groom’s do, but any order is really fine.


  7. beethankful
    Jul 17, 2012 @ 13:28:57

    If you’re a traditional couple, the groom may already have asked her parents for her hand in marriage.


  8. beethankful
    Jul 17, 2012 @ 13:29:40

    Then share the news with a few close friends


  9. beethankful
    Jul 17, 2012 @ 13:29:53

    – the ones who are likely candidates for maid/matron of honor and best man, or definite attendants in some capacity.


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